My Story with the Enneagram

“I never really felt like I belonged”

When I read that description of a Type 4 in “The Road Back to You”, memories of my childhood up to that present moment flashed through my mind. It’s a feeling I so naturally carried with me that I couldn’t help but assume it was true. Something in me was lacking. I always felt like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. But now, here it was on paper in a book about personality types. I wasn’t alone in this thinking. If this thought was part of a personality type, and wasn’t necessarily true, that meant there was a different truth out there for me. And maybe what actually was true is that I do belong. There isn’t anything lacking in me.

Learning about myself as a type 4 opened up a world of freedom to me. I learned how to identify faulty thinking and ways to overcome it, creating new thought patterns. What i had always seen as negative traits, I began to see as my strengths and my gifts to the world, the way that I am “fearfully and wonderfully made” as the Bible says.

As I understood myself more and more, the positive effects of this inner work has spilled over into my marriage with my husband of 16 years, my parenting to my 4 children, and my relationships outside of my home as well.

The change in me was so impactful that I had to find a way to share the enneagram with others! I am now a certified Enneagram coach with a passion for walking alongside people as they find the same freedom, self-acceptance, and growth that I did.

How could the Enneagram help you?